Luke 17:3 Ministries Inc
Sunday, March 26, 2017
For Adult Daughters of Controlling or Abusive Birth-Families

Forgiveness-Not Necessarily What You Think

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And when ye stand praying, forgive, if ye have ought against any: that your Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses.  But if ye do not forgive, neither will your Father which is in heaven forgive your trespasses.....Mark11:25-26 KJV

Forgive as the Lord forgave you....Colossians 3:13NIV

     Sister, your Father wants you to forgive.  We all know this is not easy, in fact, it can be very difficult.  The Enemy is jubilant when you do not forgive.  But our hearts must be obedient to our beloved Father, first and foremost, above all else.  We must overcome Satan's temptation to remain unforgiving. 

     However, forgiveness and the requirement to forgive are not necessarily what we have been led to believe they are by our abusers and their enablers, or by others who are either misinformed or trying to deceive us.  In the Bible, we are told to forgive as the Lord forgave us.(Colossians 3:13, Ephesians 4:32)  The Lord forgives us when we repent. (Ezekiel 33:10-20, Isaiah 55:6-7, Jeremiah 6:16-30 & 26:3, Luke 13:3 & 5, Acts 3:19)  He does NOT forgive those who are 'stiff-necked' , refuse to repent, and intend to continue in their sinful ways, and he does not expect us to, either.  By forgiving unremorseful evildoers, we are depriving them of the opportunity to repent and transform their lives.

     In Luke 17:3, Jesus tells us very clearly that we are to forgive someone who sins against us IF he repents.   God does not want us to continue to be abused, in fact, we are told to shun evildoers ( Some examples are Psalm 37:9, Psalm 119:115, Matthew 18:17, Titus 3:10-11, 1 Corinthians 5:1-5.  See the article "No Forgiveness For The Unrepentant" under this heading on the left menu for more).  But if there is true repentance (see Helpful Definitions), the Lord does want us to forgive.

     Click on the articles to the left under "Forgiveness- Not Necessarily What You Think" for details about God's formula for forgiveness, and help in being able to forgive when there truly is repentance.  May God bless you in your struggle.  With courage from the Lord, the devil, and his tricks to separate us from God's grace, will be defeated!   OUR GOD IS A MIGHTY GOD!   HALLELUJAH! 

     ***If you are interesting in reading more about the Biblical model for forgiveness and offering unconditional forgiveness or forgiveness without repentance, we recommend the RBC website.  Click HERE for one article and HERE for another one.

***For more on this subject, please visit the Sections SETTING & ENFORCING LIMITS & BOUNDARIES, REBUKING, REPENTING & APOLOGIES, THE ABUSER'S REACTIONS TO REBUKE, and REPROBATES & CUTTING TIES .

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The Lord specifically called Sister Renee to minister to Adult Children, not their parents, estranged siblings or friends, abusive or abused spouses, or victims of other types of abuse, although what we write here can often be meaningful for those folks as well. Because of this, our ministry and website have a narrow focus which we will not be changing. We simply can't cover everything. In addition, it is not our purpose to help you re-establish contact with someone who felt it was necessary to cut you off for the sake of their own well-being. We do not keep a list of resources for estranged parents or any other type of abuse and suggest if you are sincerely interested in making amends with an estranged relative, you do an internet search for a website or group that will be more relevant to you. If you cannot find a group or site that you can relate to, we suggest you start your own, and bless other people in your position as well as find support for your personal issues. 
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