Luke 17:3 Ministries Inc
Monday, November 29, 2021
For Adult Daughters of Controlling or Abusive Birth-Families

Finding Peace In Your Life

Finding Peace in Your Life


By Sister Renee Pittelli


            If you had asked me what ingredient I thought was essential for living a happy, fulfilled, good life, I would have given you different answers at different stages in my life.  There was a time I believed the key to living a good life was financial security- not having to worry about money.  At other times, I believed the answer was having family and friends in your life, or love, or good health. 

                But looking back and knowing what I know now, I would have to say that I was wrong, or at least off-base.  The one real necessity for happiness and living a good life is PEACE. 

                I did not fully appreciate peace until I went through a prolonged period of having no peace in my life.  After being controlled and abused all my life by my birth-family members, in my mid-40’s, they caused me to endure a period of almost four years of unrelenting stress and upset.  Only because of this traumatic time in my life, did I come to understand that, no matter what else you have, without peace it is next to impossible to live a happy life.

                I am not just referring to peace in the “peace-and-quiet sense”, although after a lifetime of screamng dinner-table arguments courtesy of my abusive birth-father, I greatly appreciate the benefits of that kind of peace. (Better  a dry crust with peace and quiet than a house full of feasting, with strife…..Proverbs 17:1)


                What I really mean is a deeper peace- being at peace – with your life- whatever your

circumstances.  If your parents are a part of your life, it is important to be at peace with that.  If your parents are no longer a part of your life, it is so important to be at peace with that.  Many terminally-ill people eventually come to terms with their fate and are at peace even with death- the one thing that so many others fear the most.  Having the assurance to be at peace with your choices and decisions in life is also invaluable.

                Many times, we are filled with doubt and sorrow, and find that peace is often elusive, yet it is so vital to our well-being.  Peace in our hearts and peace-of-mind is what we all need to thrive and live happy lives.  The only way to true peace is through our God.  Peace is one of the fruits of the Holy Spirit (Galatians 5:22).  Now that I have tasted the peace of the Lord, I see the other things I once thought were most important from a different perspective.  I understand that while they are desirable, their importance is just on the surface.  They are important, but in a more superficial sense when compared to the much deeper significance of peace.

Jesus tells us that if we come to him when we are heavily burdened, he will give us rest for our souls , which is peace of mind and heart.  Sister, do not suffer any longer!  Reach out to our Savior Jesus and let his peace wash over you.  Come unto me, all ye that labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.  Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest for your souls.  For my yoke is easy and my burden is light…….Matthew  11:28-30 KJV. THANK YOU JESUS!

                So if you asked me now what one thing I believe is absolutely essential for living a good life, I would answer without hesitation-PEACE.- The Peace of the Lord! 


The Lord lift up his countenance upon thee, and give thee peace….Numbers 6:26 KJV

Great peace have they who love your law, and nothing can make them stumble…..Psalm 119: 165 NIV

A heart at peace gives life to the body….Proverbs 14:30

For unto us a child is born, unto us a Son is given:  And his name shall be called Wonderful, Counseller,  The mighty God.  The everlasting Father, The Prince of Peace………Isaiah  9: 6 KJV

Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee………Isaiah 26:  3 KJV

Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace to men on whom his favor rests………Luke 2: 14 NIV

Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you:  not as the world giveth, give I unto you.  Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid. …..John 14: 27  KJV

These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace.  In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world……. John  16: 33 KJV

Therefore being justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ……Romans 5: 1  KJV

And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus…. Phillipians 4: 7 KJV

Now may the Lord of peace himself give you peace at all times and in every way…… 2 Thessalonians 3: 16 NIV



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