Index of Articles and Announcements

 
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Don’t miss Sister Renee’s new book Narcissistic Confrontations: A Biblical Guide to Your Abusive Family and Church Family’s Battle Tactics, Covert Operations, and Nuclear Meltdowns. You can find it and read a full description on Amazon HERE, Barnesandnoble HERE, or read the book’s webpage HERE. It is also available in Kindle, Nook and e-book format. We pray that it blesses you mightily!
 
April 2013~ We are thrilled to announce that we have reached ONE MILLION HITS on our site. Thank you Jesus! And thank you to all who pass our website along to others. God bless you!
 
If you are blessed with what you read on this site and are looking for some extra support and encouragement, please join us on facebook! See you there!
 
***In just the first week of January 2013, we had over 9000 hits on our site! This means the Christmas season was especially stressful for many of us. Now that the holidays are over, many of us regret including our abusive relatives in what should have been a nice celebration. Are you looking for different holiday ideas for the future? This is Sister Renee’s latest interview with Stacy Lynn Harp and Randall Harp of Active Christian Media. We talk about managing holiday depression and dealing with toxic families, and give some helpful tips for holidays such as Easter and Mother’s Day as well as Christmas and Thanksgiving~ Click here to listen. Hope you enjoy it and find it helpful πŸ™‚
 
This great post from our Sister Jenni really sums up how so many of us feel during the holiday season. Many thanks to Jenni for sharing her feelings with us and putting it into words so perfectly~
 
I hear you all on the holiday grief. For some reason this year I feel a bit frozen… In the past I have felt really angry/sad because my kids don’t have reasonable grandparents, we have very little family to have any kind of traditions with. I just feel like Christmas is coming WAY too soon and I’m not emotionally ready for it. I want to hit the ‘ignore’ button. Which probably means I’m shoving something under. Maybe multiple things under. I feel like I’m just going through the motions and I really don’t care, don’t feel like dealing with a tree, or lights, or any of the usual fun stuff. I don’t really care that my family sucks and husband’s family sucks and husband sucks a lot of the time. I’m just tired.
 
I’m tired of being the responsible one. I’m tired of being the one who cares, who thinks, who motivates. I’m tired of having people ask me to do things they are clearly capable of doing themselves. I’m tired of ‘helpless’ narcissistic people. I’m tired of going to stores and looking over my shoulder for crazy family. I’m tired of being the one they accost rather than their own son. I’m tired of hearing that my mother is lying about me, about what I said, about what she said, about what she did. I’m tired of my husband’s family lying about me, about who I am, about what I am, about what I have said, about what I believe, about who they are, about what they have said. I’m tired of stupid people’s stupid excuses for the mean and nasty things they do and say. I’m tired of having to explain to my kids that just because we are surrounded by Ns in our family does NOT mean the rest of the world should be viewed with suspicion. I’m tired of worrying that my kids will grow up to be like the N family. I’m tired of being so exhausted I can’t do the things I truly enjoy. I’m just flippin tired.
 
Wow… I did NOT know all that was in my head.
 
Jenni
 
***For some holiday encouragement and helpful suggestions, check out our Happier Holidays section. After you click this link and the page opens, look on the left menu under the “Happier Holidays” heading and you will find a drop down menu with some additional holiday articles you can click and read.
 
***DON’T MISS THESE 3 GREAT RADIO INTERVIEWS WITH SISTER RENEE~
 
***Sister Renee’s interview on 7/19/2011 with Stacy Lynn Harp of Active Christian Media. Stacy, Randall and I talk about wrongful church teachings on evil,unmerited forgiveness, victim’s reactions,etc. Includes 3 clips from In The Market with Janet Parshall interviewing Neil Anderson as they respond to callers who need help. We really get into some meaty subjects! Don’t miss our discussion on Luke 23:34 “Father forgive them for they know not what they do!” Many thanks to Stacy and Randall for another great interview πŸ™‚
 
***Another great interview with Sister Renee and Stacy Lynn Harp of Active Christian Media- This time we cover topics like restitution, abuser’s funerals, setting limits, circular arguments, “personality disorders”, N’s abandonment issues, etc. Many thanks to Stacy Lynn and ACM. Click here for the podomatic link. Enjoy and share please πŸ™‚
 
***Check out Sister Renee’s interview with Stacy Lynn Harp of Active Christian Media. They talk about narcissistic families, forgiveness without repentance, Sister Renee’s book Breaking the Bonds of Adult Child Abuse including excerpts, and much more. Click here for the blogtalkradio link and here for the podomatic link. Many thanks to Stacy Lynn Harp and Active Christian Media, and praise the Lord!
 
***We are thrilled to announce the release of Sister Renee’s new book “Breaking the Bonds of Adult Child Abuse: A Biblical Textbook on Abusive Narcissistic Families, How They Operate, And How To Deal With Them”. It’s 650 pages jam-packed with help, information and scriptural references. You can click here for the book’s webpage for details and an e-book version, or go directly to barnesandnoble.com or amazon.com to order it in paperback or Kindle. Thank you everyone for all your prayers and encouragement, we are praying that this book will bless you mightily. Thank you Lord!
 
Looking for a great present for that special someone ? Wrap up a copy of Narcissistic Predicaments or The Family Freeloader. The perfect gift for your husband, wife, sister, brother, friend, or anyone who is trying to deal with a narcissistic family πŸ™‚

***Like us? Visit our facebook page and “like” us, and voice your opinions on our facebook discussions about narcissists, abuse, and survival. To all who ask for advice, we are sorry we cannot provide it on an individual basis or refer you to a counselor (other than the Holy Ghost!) but we hope you’ll find support and encouragement on our facebook page- See you there!

We are thrilled to announce Sister Renee’s book “Narcissistic Predicaments: A Biblical Guide for Navigating the Schemes, Snares, and No-Win Situations Unique to Abusive Families“-now available on Amazon and BarnesandNoble.com. Click here for the Amazon listing. Click here for the Barnesandnoble.com listing. Click here for the Kindle edition or here for the Narcissistic Predicament’s webpage. Thank you so much everyone for your prayers and patience, we pray that this book will bless you and help you with the dilemmas you are facing because of your abusive relatives. Thank you, Lord!
 
DON’T MISS SISTER RENEE’S BOOK “THE FAMILY FREELOADER- A BIBLICAL ANSWER FOR SOB STORIES, CON GAMES, AND NEVER HAVING TO GET OFF THE COUCH” – AN EXPANDED VERSION OF OUR ARTICLE FEATURING EVEN MORE FREELOADER TESTIMONIES, SCAMS AND TACTICS AND 21 WAYS TO SPOT A CON, IT’S AVAILABLE ON AMAZON AND BARNESANDNOBLE.COM. CLICK HERE FOR THE KINDLE EDITION. CLICK HERE FOR THE FAMILY FREELOADER WEBPAGE AND ORDERING INFORMATION.               
 
***PLEASE review these books on Amazon and BarnesandNoble after you read them. You would be helping us a great deal! Thank you so much.
***Thank you from the bottom of our hearts to everyone who posted links to our site or mentioned it on your sites, blogs, articles, chat groups and boards over the last year. We had 449,181 hits in 2013! God bless you for helping us minister to those who are hurting. Please keep spreading the word of freedom in truth and our Father’s love for HIS children!***
 
When my father and my mother forsake me,
then the Lord will take me up……..Psalm 27: 10 KJV
 
“Therefore, in the present case I advise you: Leave these men alone! Let them go! For if their purpose or activity is of human origin, it will fail. But if it is from God, you will not be able to stop these men; you will only find yourselves fighting against God”….Acts 5: 38-39
“When people show you who they are, believe them”…Maya Angelou.
 
Leonard- “You can catch more flies with honey than vinegar.”
Sheldon- “You can catch even MORE flies with manure. What’s your point?”
……from The Big Bang Theory
 
“Listen! And understand! That terminator is out there. It can’t be bargained with! It can’t be reasoned with! It doesn’t feel pity, or remorse, or fear. And it absolutely will not stop, ever, until you are dead!”…..Kyle Reese, The Terminator, 1984
Do you think you understand how a psychopath thinks? Here’s a riddle for you:
A young woman is at her mother’s funeral. There she meets a man she’s never seen before. They talk for awhile and she feels an instant connection to him- it’s love at first sight. He’s everything she’s ever wanted in a man. She could easily see herself spending the rest of her life with him. She can’t believe she’s finally found her Prince Charming! The only problem is, she doesn’t get his name or number before he leaves.
Two weeks later, she kills her sister.
Why?
Take some time to think about it, and then scroll down for the answer.
 
 

Our Father’s Promises To Us

And I heard a great voice out of heaven saying, Behold, the tabernacle of God is with men, and he will dwell with them, and they shall be his people, and God himself shall be with them, and be their God. And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away. And he that sat upon the throne said, Behold, I make all things new….Revelation 21: 3-5 KJV.

Check back next week for another Promise from God……

 

 
ANNOUNCEMENTS:
 
***WOW***~over ***ONE MILLION*** hits! Our site has been logged onto from 223 countries and translated into 37 languages! Please keep posting us on your groups, blogs and boards. We are reaching more and more survivors every day! Praise the Lord! All the glory goes to him!
 
Welcome and peace to our friends in The United States, Canada, England, Wales, Scotland, Ireland, Northern Ireland, Australia, Spain, Germany, Kenya, South Africa, Norway, Philippines, France, Trinidad & Tobago, Ivory Coast, Guam, Sweden, South Korea, Chile, Brazil, Bangladesh, Poland, India, Croatia, Fiji, Slovakia, Netherlands, Israel, New Zealand, Malaysia, Taiwan, Mexico, Belgium, Japan, French Guiana, St. Lucia, Greece, Hong Kong, Antigua & Barbuda, Kuwait, Denmark, Italy, Nigeria, Egypt, Eritrea, Suriname, Portugal, Peru, Turkey, Bulgaria, Switzerland, Ghana, United Arab Emirates, Puerto Rico, Singapore, Iran, Seychelles, Barbados, Czech Republic, St. Kitts & Nevis, Vietnam, Pakistan, Thailand, Lithuania, Benin, Cyprus, US Virgin Islands, Hungary, British Virgin Islands, Togo, Bermuda, Finland, Moldova, Aruba, Saudi Arabia, Panama, Dominican Republic, Iraq, Uganda, The Bahamas, Jamaica, Sri Lanka, Indonesia, China, Russia, Argentina, Malta, Serbia, Slovenia, Qatar, Senegal, Oman, Lebanon, Romania, Kazakhstan, Jordan, Burundi,Tanzania, Haiti, Austria, Namibia, Saint Vincent and The Grenadines, Anguilla, Malawi, Ethiopia, Ecuador, Zimbabwe, Mauritius, Cape Verde, Zambia, Ukraine, Estonia, Latvia, Morocco, Guyana,Venezuela, Cambodia, Colombia, Honduras, Netherlands Antilles,Yemen, Bolivia, Northern Mariana Islands, Saint Lucia, Iceland, Belarus, Nepal, Costa Rica, Mozambique, Botswana, Dominica, Bosnia and Herzegovina,Gibraltar, Jersey,Tunisia,The Faeroe Islands, Azerbaijan, Burkina Faso, Mongolia, Brunei, Granada, Sudan, Syria, Cayman Islands,Georgia, Lesotho, Angola, Libya, Cameroon, Montenegro, Algeria, Bahrain, Isle of Man, Guatemala, the Marshall Islands, El Salvador, Iceland, Luxembourg, Papua New Guinea, the Solomon Islands, Albania, Bhutan, Maldives, Afghanistan, Mauritania,Cuba, Uganda, Armenia,Gambia, Belize,Guadeloupe, Macedonia, French Polynesia, Myanmar (Burma), Paraguay, Rwanda,Cook Islands, Swaziland, Laos, Monaco, New Caledonia, Guernsey, Liechtenstein, the Palestinian Territories, Somalia, Nicaragua, Sierra Leone, Kyrgyzstan, Gabon, Swaziland, Madagascar, Andorra, Uzbekistan, New Caledonia,Turks and Caicos Islands, Congo, Micronesia, Macau, Andorra, Reunion, Curacao, Cook Islands, Niger, Djibouti, Martinique, Liberia, Sint Maarten, Kosovo,Vanuatu, Palestine, Samoa,Turkmenistan, and South Sudan.
 
The Lord said, “Go out and stand on the mountain in the presence of the Lord, for the Lord is about to pass by.” Then a great and powerful wind tore the mountains apart and shattered the rocks before the Lord, but the Lord was not in the wind. After the wind there was an earthquake, but the Lord was not in the earthquake. After the earthquake came a fire, but the Lord was not in the fire. And after the fire came a gentle whisper. When Elijah heard it, he pulled his cloak over his face and went out and stood at the mouth of the cave…………1 Kings 19: 11-13 NIV
 
And if any place will not welcome you or listen to you, shake the dust off your feet when you leave, as a testimony against them…..Mark 6:11
 

Jerry: Marriage is a big step, Elaine. Your life’ll totally change.

Elaine: Jerry, It’s three-thirty in the morning. I’m at a cockfight. What am I clinging to?

…………Seinfeld, The Little Jerry, 1/9/97
WHY are you sticking around, or coming back for more??? Great article and checklist on Traumatic Bonding with abusers and psychopaths:
 
*** If you’re ready to make some life changes and looking for a new direction, please check out 5 Successful Ways to Stay Depressed by my dear friend Stacy Lynn Harp of Active Christian Media, who also has an extensive background as a marriage and family therapist. A great value, you get both the audio and e-book for $5, filled with wisdom and humor. You’ll love Stacy as much as I do! Enjoy! Love and blessings, Sister Renee
 
***Christian writer Cynthia Bailey-Rug is compiling an e-book which will be available free-of-charge on her website for people who have been abused and overcome their pain, or are in the process of overcoming their pain, by the grace of our Heavenly Father. She is looking for testimonies from survivors. If you would like your story to be considered for inclusion in her book, you can find more information by clicking here.
 
***Don’t miss the wonderful website Light’s House. It’s chock full of great articles and resources on Toxic Parents,the things they do, and how to deal with them. I highly recommend the section on Reducing Contact, especially Light’s step-by-step guide and resources for protecting yourself when your abusive parent will not leave you alone. CLICK HERE to visit this very helpful site.
 
***Check out this wonderful interview on forgiveness with David Augsburger, Professor of Pastoral Care at Fuller Theological Seminary. CLICK HERE to read or listen.
 
****FOR ARTICLES ON FINALLY CHANGING YOUR HOLIDAYS FOR THE BETTER, VISIT OUR ‘HAPPIER HOLIDAYS’ SECTION.
 
***Click here to check out Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families for some great articles, websites, books, and other rescources.
 
****WHY DO DESTRUCTIVE NARCISSISTIC RELATIVES JUST LOVE TO RUIN OUR HOLIDAYS??? FOR THE EYE-OPENING UNVARNISHED TRUTH, READ DR. SAM VAKNIN’S RIVETING ARTICLE ‘A HOLIDAY GRUDGE’:
 
****For a healthy dose of common sense, don’t miss Anna Valerious’ wonderfully well-written, educational, and intriguing blog Narcissists Suck. CLICK HERE.
 
****Ever hear the “I’m Not Perfect” excuse for abuse? Is it “I’m not perfect”, or should it really be “I’m just plain evil”? Don’t miss this great analysis and blog by Soaring Dove- CLICK HERE.
 
****Check out the Characteristics of Narcissistic Mothers by clicking HERE.
 
****Don’t miss this wonderfully educational and healing resource whose motto is “The Pain Stops Here” (PLEASE NOTE: This is a secular forum, not a Christian forum)- Daughters Of Narcissistic Mothers.com. CLICK HERE.
 
***ANSWER TO PSYCHOPATH RIDDLE: She reasons that if he was at her mother’s funeral, he must be a friend of the family. So, if there’s another family funeral, maybe he’ll show up again……
 
Did you get it wrong? Well, don’t feel bad. You don’t think like a psychopath, but until now you also didn’t understand how they think. At least now you know what you’re up against.
 
****Many thanks and blessings to our dear Sister Pavitra for allowing us to post her original poem “A Poem To My Family Of Origin” on our site. It is an inspiring poem of victory over abuse and triumph over evil. You can find it in our Claiming The Victory section or just click on the link above. May you be blessed by it as we have been.
 
***Thank you so much to all who have posted our website on your blogs and chat groups. Because of you taking the time to help others, you have made it possible for us to help others as well. It is so uplifting to know that so many are standing up for what is right and taking a stand against abuse. We are so grateful for you and we remember you always in our prayers. Keep spreading the word, and God bless you. With much love, Sisters Renee & Denise
***Many thanks to Dr. Sam Vaknin, author of the book ‘Malignant Self-Love- Narcissism Revisited’ and well-known for his extensive studies on narcissistic abuse and how to deal with it, for publicizing our website on his sites, and for sending us numerous links to his own websites and others so we could add them to our links page. Click on The Lord’s Links and check out these very educational sites.
 
***Are you the Black Sheep of your family? If so, Dr. Angela Woodhull would like to interview you for her new book, ‘EVERY FAMILY NEEDS A BLACK SHEEP.’ Dr. Woodhull is a psychologist, minister, teacher, private investigator, journalist and author of numerous articles and books, including ‘Coping With Difficult Teachers’, ‘Private Investigation Strategies & Techniques’, and ‘Police Communication in Traffic Stops’. If you are interested in participating, you can call Dr. Woodhull at 352 332-0514 and reverse the charges. You can also write to her at PO Box 14423, Gainesville, FL 32604-2423, or e-mail her at chachaangelina@yahoo.com.
 
Great article on ‘honoring’ abusive parents from Christianity Today:
 
***BY POPULAR DEMAND, we have added a section of resources for DELIVERANCE & SPIRITUAL WARFARE to our links page. Please click on THE LORD’S LINKS.
 
*** Don’t forget to click on our Prayer List and remember our sisters and brothers in your prayers. You can send us any names you would like to add at luke173@hotmail.com or PO Box 684, Chestertown, NY 12817. You must include your full name although it will not be published. We will pray for everyone , not just abuse victims. And, YES, you can add yourself!
 
***If you have a question or a topic relating to birth-family abuse that you would like us to write about in the future, please e-mail us. We are always grateful for new ideas. If the Lord directs us to write about your topic, your name will not be published as we are committed to protecting your privacy. All requests will be prayerfully considered and we ask for your prayers as well as we wait on the Lord’s word.
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#We’ve made it easier for you to read our own personal stories. Articles containing our testimonies are marked with a #. God bless, Sister Renee & Sister Denise
These articles (titled in bold below) are currently available in the following sections (underlined). You can click on the articles directly from this index, or If you click on the title of each Section on the left menu, you will then be able to click on the articles in that Section.
 
ADULT-CHILD ABUSE- THE ONLY ABUSE STILL ACCEPTED:
ONLINE OPINION POLL: TELL US YOUR THOUGHTS!
A LITTLE ABOUT US:
CURRENT NEWSLETTER & PAST NEWSLETTERS:
 
***For Links to Past Newsletters, please click on the Newsletter link on the left menu and links to all the past newsletters will appear underneath it.
 
BIRTH-FAMILY ABUSES OF ADULT DAUGHTERS:
 
WHY THEY ABUSE, BETRAY, OR ABANDON YOU: